What’s a promise you made to yourself that you’ve actually kept?
When me and my sister were little, for whatever reason, we liked watching Time Life Classics infomercials! IFKYK 😩🫣🙂↕️✨
For 30 minutes, Time Life commercials played short snippets of genre music that were sold on CD and/or cassettes for the not so low price of $24.99 plus shipping & handling in the 1900s!
A simpler time/I’m once again showing my age 👵🏽😩✨ dammit 🥲🤧✨
Also, there needs to be a gif of KC kiking with Corbin and calling Aniya grandma. Love Island USA, season 8 reference. IYKYK 🤧✨
One song from the early-90s rhythm and blues infomercial in particular reminded me of something my single mom would always say, “If imma do bad, imma do bad all by myself!” Plus some other choice words by my mother!
My brother wanted our mom partnered—I don’t know if he was serious or just getting her riled up as a joke, but one day one of those Time Life songs, although new to me, sounded familiar!
Song lyrics echoed by my mom and unknowingly engrained into me to this day.
That saying by my mom and that moment I heard those words being sung has stuck with me. It, unknowingly, has been my life’s motto for this current and hopefully last Earth journey of mines.
I don’t believe in settling for the sake of culture, religion, humanity, people in my day-to-day, people in my life for a season or two, or for fleeting social media validation. Whereas my ex wanted a BIG ass, expensive African wedding in two continents and a gaggle of kids for the validation that comes with both from his community, his fans, and also, because of his religion and cultual pressures.
My dream wedding was/is getting married in Las Vegas, in the drive-thru wedding chapel, by skinny Elvis preferably.
Him in confusion/🧢
He even told his lawyer that he didn’t know what I didn’t want to marry him anymore.
It took time but hallelujah. I walked away with no marriage. No babies. Just two cats! Thank heavenly 🙌✨🐈✨🐈⬛✨
That vast difference in how we wanted our wedding was a real indication of how unequally yoked we were. An instant attraction doesn’t equal compatibility and attraction also fades because of those differences.
Not settling in a job, for a relationship, and in life has been my saving grace and my sanity. I am my most happiest whilst single. I recently learned that some people don’t understand nor accept that and will plot against you because they want you to live the life they’re living or think you should live! And absolutely not! I recently ended a friendship with a couple because the wife was trying to set me up, despite me telling her constantly how happy I was being single and me not rushing into dating. That’s a post/series in itself!
I love my freedom, the peace and the quietness of my life and home. I will not suffer or experience lack or hardship in a partnership just to check off man made life milestones for the sake of making a Facebook post. The best experiences I’ve had to date have been because of me.
I told my ex that I could do bad by myself and wouldn’t! He didn’t believe me until we parted ways and he quickly saw who was God’s favorite. No praying multiple times a day was required! God knows what’s in my heart and what I deserve—no extra theatrics needed.
He was gobsmacked! And still is to this day! 🙂↕️✨
For: Me … basicallY 
Leave a comment